So finally, you found a match that you are looking for. And after some initial conversation over the phone and chatting online, both of you decide to meet in-person as the feelings are mutual. There are certain things that both men and women have to remember in their initial days of a new relationship.
At this time, one feels internal enthusiasm, joy, bliss and elation. One may feel that mind unconsciously starts thinking about the match and starts forming various ideas. Surely this feels nice but at the same time, the way how one is going to proceed in this new relationship will determine whether it will become real or fizzles out.
It takes time & effort to make a relationship and from a new relationship to a good relationship. One may find it easy getting into a new relationship. However, keeping and maintaining a good relationship takes not only time and effort but also commitment, acceptance for what he/she is and a lot of compassion.
The following points will definitely help those who are new in a relationship and don’t want to derail it.
#Meet often but curb the enthusiasm: In the initial period, one may feel to spend every minute with each other. In person or not, both will like to spend as much time together as possible, either in person or over the phone.
But, we suggest you not to leave other things abruptly like talking to your friends or taking time for workouts, or the other hobbies you would like to nourish. Moreover, escaping things or your commitments means they all will eventually pile up and become a nuisance.
Moreover, keep the enthusiasm at a low level. People usually share their dates too early with their friends, update their Facebook status, click selfies of their dates and update them on social media. However, holding back the initial elation will eventually help you from any embarrassment in case if things don’t work out.
#Give it space and don’t be possessive: Being together with each other may be the best feeling in the initial days of a relationship. Maybe in-person or via messages/calls, one can find a way or other to be in touch. However, a little space will definitely help both in finishing all their respective tasks.
Additionally, this ‘me time’ will also help in missing each other & longing for each other, waiting eagerly hoping for his/her call or message. This craving will eventually help in forming a strong bond.
One of the traits that you both have to deal with is possessiveness. Feeling jealous or insecure displays one’s possessiveness towards her/him. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean to stop spending time with friends or partying/ hanging out with your pals. Additionally, one cannot exert any of his/her desire on the other for stopping to meet someone or spending time with others.
#Show admiration but don’t gift excessively: It feels good on being appreciated which eventually helps in easing with each other and feeling comfortable. A simple ‘thank you’ for compliments, admiring the looks or even sharing greets help form a lasting bond. Being courteous and well manners will eventually help relationships to move forward positively.
Showing appreciation is one thing, but that doesn’t mean overwhelm the date with gifts every time you meet her/him. One can save the spending binge for later when the bond becomes strong to forge a formal relationship.
#Accept with all accessories: Relationships come in bundles. One has to accept not only the good things attached to a person but even the most annoying habits also. Don’t try to change the habits of your date to make yourself feel comfortable.
One has to learn to adjust or make a compromise on certain issues. Moreover, by restricting someone or changing the habits prone the relationships to fail.
#Talk to each other but ‘I Love You’: Try to forge the bond in a relationship by getting to know each other thoroughly. Spending time and conversing is the best way. Additionally, it will help in understanding the personality, traits, likes & dislikes behavioral patterns, attitude and way of thinking.
Additionally, talking to each other doesn’t necessarily mean showing every time that you are in love and saying “l love you’. The acknowledgement comes automatically to the mutual feelings.
#Introducing to friends: Don’t introduce your date to your friends too early. Firstly, one should be confident about the new relationship. At a nascent stage, when one is still exploring the possibilities of getting along well, one has to avoid introducing the date with the friends.
It’s not a bad idea to introduce your date with your friends, however, it’s recommended not to overwhelm the date with much information about them. Additionally, in case if you do meet a friend while on a date let him/her introduce as a simple friend rather than opening up about the new relationship. It helps in saving you from any future awkward situation.
A new relationship takes all, be it your longingness, anxiety, yearning to talk and get in touch, explore each other, etc. However, to move from a new relationship to forging a happy and long lasting relationship requires time, commitment, understanding, compromises, acknowledgment, appreciation and a will to be with each other.